In support of Jared

[dizzojay]

I've kept fairly quiet about all this business about Jared's misadventures this week.  No-one except the people involved know the full story, and right now Jared and his family need privacy and support, not sensationalism.







I understand there's been a lot of comment, and unsurprisingly a certain amount of hate from certain quarters in the fandom (which I go out of my way to avoid).


All I'll say is that unless these people who are so quick to judge someone else, have never in their entire life made a bad choice or an error of judgement, they should just shut the fuck up.  No-one's interested in their sanctimonious ramblings.

Being a flawed person is very different to being a bad person, and Jared's previous life has proved to anyone that, yes - like every other human being on the planet  - he's flawed, but he's a good, decent bloke and what's gone on recently would appear to be an out-of-character aberration.  The only thing that's clear from all this is that Jared doesnt seem to be in good place right now, and it's good to see that the majority of our fandom is right behind him with their support.

So what's gone on recently doesn't make me think any less of Jared, it just makes me feel concerned for him.   Jared has my love and support now and always.  As there is an ocean between us, I can't give him a proper hug right now, so here's a virtual hug instead.

Comments

[metallidean-grl.livejournal.com]

I do feel badly for Jared. He screwed up BIG TIME! And now his poor behavior and lack of good judgement are being broadcast everywhere, whereas if he were just Joe Blow nobody would care or even be paying attention. In the light of day and soberness I'm sure he is reeling, as is his family. Gen usually tweets or Instagrams every day and she has been very silent since this happened. I cannot even imagine what is going on in their heads or hearts. I would venture to guess though, that everyone is all just brokenhearted over the whole fiasco. They all just need to give it some time. There have been other actors who have behaved similarly and been in the news cycle for awhile, but it passes. Once Jared comes out and makes a statement hopefully he and his family will be able to put this behind him. I just hope that Jared will not have to serve any jail time. Time will tell.

I have also done my best to stay away from the fans blasting Jared. I've seen some stuff, but I don't dwell in it. I have met Jared enough times and seen his work to know what kind of person he is. To behave in such a way he must truly be hurting. I have heard that the end of the show is hitting him hard, probably harder than he might have initially thought it would, which might explain his behavior. I don't know. But something is eating at him for him to behave in such a way. Even though I'm not a parent, I have parented some nieces and nephews, and I am (almost) old enough to be his mum, so part of me can't help but think (say) Jared, what the hell were you thinking? Also, why are you out so late at night, and getting drunk, to boot. You have a wife and children at home, should you really be out so late at night with a family at home. What if something had happened to one of your kids while you were in your stupor, would you have been able to take care of them? That is the tough love side of me trying to wake Jared up. The other part of me just wants to hold him, hug him until the hurt and pain that is inside of him goes away. I've looked at his mug shot and I ache. What I see in front of me is a stranger. That picture is not a picture of the man I love and admire. That picture is not a picture of a happy man, but a man in pain. His eyes are dark and pain filled.

There is a Convention in Washington, DC this weekend. At first I wondered if Jared was going to attend, and if he did, how would he act and how would the fans act. Well, I just received notification that Jared will NOT be attending that Con. I feel badly for the fans who wanted to see him, but Jared needs to be at home with his family and main support group, not in DC with his fans. Although I'm sure he'd be getting a lot of love from everyone there, he really needs to be home and away from it all for awhile. He needs to recoup and repair what he broke. I'm hoping that Jensen will come with some kind of statement and comment for us all. We'll find out Sunday.

I also stand behind him and offer my love and support. My heart breaks for him and his family. I hope he will be able to come out of this a better and stronger person because of what he is going through.

[fanspired]

I'm not sure we should expect a statement any time soon. I imagine his lawyers would advise him to say nothing while the case is ongoing.

[metallidean-grl.livejournal.com]

Oh yea, I know. I'm not expecting anything from jared anytime soon. He has a lot to sort through and get through.

[fufaraw]

What you said.

It feels like a large part of fandom never had friends or family who struggled with mental/emotional health and self-medicating with alcohol. To me it sounds like a random Saturday night. The only difference is, Jared's famous, and his problems get spotlighted and examined by the press and public. People passing judgement should thank their lucky stars neither they nor theirs have that same kind of scrutiny and can be left alone to address their problems in privacy. I think if fandom loves him we should be willing to give him some space and time--and send our love and support.

[dizzojay.livejournal.com]

I'm sure Jared will come out of this fine because he has a good support network around him.
You only have to see from DC con how concerned and how supportive Jensen is for his 'big dumb friend' :)

[jj1564.livejournal.com]

I've kept quiet too, partly as I didn't know what to say except that what happened doesn't make me love or admire him any less. And I felt like I don't know enough about what happened to make a comment. I'm sure there was more to it than the sneaky gits who videoed him portrayed.

Thanks so much for this, I agree with every word and share your concern for our lovely moose.

[dizzojay.livejournal.com]

I love how Jensen referred to him as his 'big dumb friend'. Jared has a great support network around him, including most of the fandom, so I'm sure he will come out of this fine, and a wiser person.

[zara-zee.livejournal.com]

Oh dear. I hadn't heard anything about this, just looked up the details now. I've only met Jared once, at the one Con I've attended, but he was lovely. This does seem like a drunken aberration; not good, of course, but my first reaction, like yours, is to be concerned for him.

[dizzojay.livejournal.com]

Absolutely. He's a lovely person, and he doesn't deserve to be vilified for one out-of-character mistake. It' not like he has a regular history of this kind of thing.

[fanspired]

This.

[dizzojay.livejournal.com]

Thank you :)

[gotaprettymouth.livejournal.com]

Yes. Not to get all religious, but it's just as Jesus said that whoever had never sinned throw the first stone. No one did.

[dizzojay.livejournal.com]

Exactly!

[casey28.livejournal.com]

Very well said. I'm concerned for him, and he has my support. There's always been Jared haters, now they're just more vocal.

Hopefully, he will move forward from this in a positive way.

[dizzojay.livejournal.com]

Absolutely. He's a great person, and he doesn't deserve to be vilified for one out-of-character mistake. It's not like he does this sort of thing all the time.